So the question is, how do you tell if your date is going well?
There are many signs that you can try to look out for to tell if your date is going well, however, today i shall be focusing on using the study of 3 body languages to tell if your date is going well. Do note that these are not hard and fast rules and although they are all exclusively subjective to every other individual, they are more often than not accurate.
The Mirroring Effect
I call this the mirror effect as it is almost as if you’re staring into a mirror if this happens. When out on a dinner date,sitting across each other having dinner, take note of the body actions of your date, if he or she is constantly, subconsciously imitating your actions, perhaps you both taking a sip of water at roughy the same time and you both are fiddling with the fork at the same time, this could be signs that he or she is finding you attractive and likes you. Once again, do note that although this may not be entirely true, it should be most of the time.
I call this sign the ‘Parallels’ as it would be what both your body torsos form when they are showing interest in each other, or at least what each other is saying. We humans tend to turn our body torsos towards something as a sign of interest, this can be in the form of conversations or simply an attention grabbing occurance. So, when you notice that your date constantly faces his or her torso towards you, that is actually a good sign. And if he or she doesn’t do so when you’re having a conversation with them, don’t get alarmed, it’s not a 100% certainty that this tactic is right all the time, it could serve as a heads up warning for you to check yourself and what you’re saying and change from talking about the elven language in LOTR to the golden retriever in Marley & Me.
Observe their sitting and standing postures when near you.
It’s as simple as the title says, all you have to do is keep a watch out for the kind of body signals that your date gives out when near you. A cross armed, cross legged stance would signify a defensive stance towards you, most probably because you’re intruding too much into their personal space. If that’s the case, back off a foot or two and give them more personal space.
Again, all these techniques are not entirely accurate and don’t go packing up your bags and calling for the check just because your date crosses their arms or their torso’s not facing you. Give it time and remember that there’s always time to salvage any online date, use your newly acquired warning signal spotting skills to spot any trouble long beforehand and alter your behavior accordingly.